A somewhat odd piece in the New York Times: exploring the concept of limerence,
or obsessive love. There was even a movie about that in 1987, Fatal Attraction.
I find the limerence take on that kind of relationship one-sided: it is not an opportunity for
the obsessive one to grow as a person. That relationship is about being played, and the
normal human response to an on-off relationship is to want it to normalize things. which is
how it becomes obsessive with the victim. A good deal of Social Psychology is about how
people normalize things.
Cut things off! One can often confirm the other is a player, because there may be many victims...
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